Dr. Romance on The One Who Got Away

By Tina Tessina  |   Published On November 10, 2021

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When Dr. Romance was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She was what we used to call a “maiden lady” or spinster, who had dedicated her life to taking care of her mother, who was disabled, and also not quite balanced. Mrs. Weiss had one leg, and frequently escaped from the house and crawled around the yard, yelling strange things.

Clara, as you might suppose, did not have much of a social life. After her mother died, and Rockland lost its tiny post office (we had to go into the slightly larger town of Roscoe, a mile away) Clara went to work in the central post office, about 20 miles away. There, she met a co-worker, and when she was 73 years old, I remember that we gave her a bridal lingerie shower. It really is never too late to fall in love. Clara moved away to live with her husband, and they had about 10 good years together.

A number of years ago, a friend and former student of Richard’s, who was in her 70’s reconnected with an ex whose marriage proposal she had rejected in her 20’s, because he had a drinking problem. In the intervening years, they both married other people, had children and full lives. Fifty years after their first romance, when both were widowed, he tracked her down, she went down to San Diego to meet him for lunch, and didn’t return for a week. They, too, married, and had some happy years together.

A very dear friend of mine, who lives in another city and has been divorced for many years, has been living happily for a couple of years with the man she met in college and decided not to marry. They had each married other people, had children, divorced years ago and reconnected last year. They are happy together.

In addition to these stories of reconnected love, I often see clients in my practice who get back together after breaking up or divorcing. In fact, some couples come to me after they have broken up several times because of fighting and disagreements, but something always pulls them back together. Surprisingly enough, many people do start dating again after they’ve divorced or split up. I believe in the power of love, and if your heart is yearning; It’s fine to reach out to a first or former love; as long as you do it properly.

You may never have really resolved the old relationship satisfactorily, or one or both of you may have matured and become a more suitable candidate for a relationship. Lots of people find out they appreciate each other more after they’ve been apart for a while. Also, as I said, I’ve seen a number of couples re-connect joyously much later in life, after having marriages and families with other partners.

It depends on how accurate your memory is, and how good or bad the reality feels. If it’s good, then you really think it was love at first sight. If it’s bad, you are left with what was I thinking? It’s very easy to idealize someone you’ve never known well; the reality never impinges on the fantasy, so the ideal person doesn’t tarnish. You remember a rosy picture of perfection. That’s difficult to let go of, if you never get a reality check.

Can this really work, or will it just fall apart again? Here’s how to see if you and your ex can make it work.

Dr. Romance’s Guidelines for Improving the Odds with your Ex

* Consider seeing a therapist on your own, to get expert help to decide if you’re searching for this old love for the right reasons; and to help you get some perspective on what might need to be corrected.

* Make a careful first contact: strictly Hi, how are you doing? For example, if you see the old love on Facebook, try sending a message and asking to be friends. Don’t say anything about still having feelings. Your old love may very well be married now, or even gay. You need to find out what’s going on before making a move.

* Be aware whether forgiveness is needed. Did you hurt this person’s feelings way back in college? Were you hurt? Old, unresolved feelings can hang around a long time, and erupt when you least expect it.

* If you get a positive response, go very slowly. Rushing into things means you’re trying to avoid some truths. If it’s going to work, it will go better if you take the time to build a better foundation than you had before.

* Treat it like a new relationship. Start from the beginning, and do it differently — it could work this time.

* Analyze what went wrong the last time, and consciously try to fix the old problems. If you cannot talk honestly about what went wrong and what to do differently, you’ll never change anything.

* Make sure your ex is as determined to improve on the old relationship as you are. If he or she is blaming you for everything that went wrong, disaster is immanent. If you’re blaming your ex, it’s just as big a problem.

* Insist on couples therapy for both of you. Pre commitment therapy can help you find out the pitfalls and whether you’ve solved the old problems.

After all this, you might still find it’s too late to remedy the problem that led to the breakup. You may discover you’re clinging to a fantasy that is not supported by reality. If you try to re-kindle an old love, and it doesn’t work, then you’re faced with letting go – again.

You might even have the urge to try harder because breaking up finally gets through the denial and the fantasy that behaving badly or not cooperating is OK. We also have a lot of cultural mythology about I’ll never stop loving you which says clinging and martyring to this lost love means you are truly in love. But clinging to an impossible lost love is unrealistic.

You must understand that a relationship is a partnership, and requires work from both partners in order to succeed. The initial romance stage isn’t supposed to last, the relationship is supposed to grow into a real life partnership, and that requires paying attention, learning and growth. It’s not a fairy tale– it’s a real life love story, and well worth the work required. If you give nothing, you get nothing. Love is something we create by working together, and one person can’t force it.

Clinging to a lost love can turn toxic: persisting in showing up at your ex’s house, calling or showing up at work, threatening physical harm, calling your ex’s family and friends, or otherwise interfere with his or her life, will not only push your ex away, it is illegal in many states, and defined as stalking. Sometimes, clinging is encouraged, wittingly or unwittingly, by an ex who doesn’t really want to be with you, but who either doesn’t want to ‘hurt you’ or is still getting benefits (financial help, sex without commitment, you do the laundry, you’re willing to take the kids more than your share) that he or she doesn’t want to jeopardize. But this one-sided arrangement will not make you happy, and it’s probably time to move on.

Once you’re bonded with someone, it’s very painful to let go. Since most of us like to avoid our feelings, we don’t want to do the grieving that’s necessary to let go. But, when you’ve had a loss, there are a certain number of tears you must cry to let go — getting on with the crying is the fastest way. Also, the dissolution of the relationship might not have been your idea, so you’re clinging to a dream — in denial. And letting go is the path to finding the love you want.

I wish you love – whether it is rekindled, or you move on and create something brand new.

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

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Women Protect Your Power

Learn How to Protect Your POWER!

By Cathy Denault  |   Published October 17, 2021

Every woman has a BOX and is a vessel that houses your female power and energy, and encases your unique talents and abilities into a place of influence, and worthy of protection. Your BOX is your power and you need to throw away that old cliché that you’ve been told to “think outside the box”, and learn how to think inside your BOX! You might know of times when you have allowed things in your BOX that were not good for you, and need to learn ways to protect your BOX from people who will not treat it with tender, loving care. This book will show you know that every woman has a BOX, and many women give their BOX away, a lot, and it’s important that women learn to find healthy, constructive ways to protect their BOX.

What you will come to learn through reading this essay is that your BOX is capable of amazing things, some of which you may be aware of, and some that may surprise you! This is because your BOX is the core of your very being; a living, breathing microcosm of all the people, places, experiences, likes, dislikes, values, needs, wants, secrets and passions that make up your true self, and which ultimately makes up the awesomeness of YOU! Just like your fingerprint, no one has a BOX quite like yours, because yours is unique and is filled with everything you’ve ever put it in there both good and bad, up to this point in your life.

Each chapter I have written will build on the last, first asking you to hold up a mirror to your BOX to see what you’ve been accumulating all these years! You may find that you are surprised at what is in there, and decide to remove some of that toxic waste, by learning to clean out your “Litter BOX”. This is an important step in creating the space so that you can begin to fill your “Jewelry BOX” with all those valuables that make you sparkle and shine! This is when you will learn the true value of your BOX by making better choices that enhance your self-“worth”.

Not only will you learn more about your BOX, but you will realize that everyone has a BOX, even men, and will uncover strategies for dealing with the “Male-BOX!. This chapter is a must read for any woman who has son, brother, significant other, or boss that they will need to understand on a deeper level. If you have ever suffered true trauma to your BOX, there is a chapter for you to help with your recovery and healing so that you can learn how important it is to truly find ways to “protect your BOX” once and for all! When you have finished this book, you can tie up your BOX in a big bow, because it will be the best present you can give to yourself!

You will see that your BOX is capable of so many magical things, and you can protect your BOX is your power!

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How To Clean Your Closet

By Gianna Valenti  |   Published October 2, 2021

Cleaning out your closet is something that should be don’t quite frequently. Us women go shopping for a lot of different occasions such as needing an outfit for an event, something to do with the girls or something to do with free time, and something to do when you are stressed out… most commonly known as ‘retail therapy’. Now, if we are going to do all this shopping we have to make room in our closets (especially because trends are constantly changing and we do not wear all our clothes as much as we should). In today’s post I am going to go over the best way to clean out your closet, what and what not to get rid of, a few other tips and tricks in between and what to do with the clothing you do not want anymore. Buckle up, its going to be a long ride!

The most common mistakes we make when cleaning out our closets are getting rid of the basics. This is something we have to learn not to do. We look at a basic white t-shirt and assume it is taking up space because it is so basic. Well… you are wrong. Basic clothing is the most important when it comes to our wardrobe because we can wear it with anything. Basic clothing items are what actually helps us make our cute outfits and tie them together. Also, when feeling lazy we can throw on our white t-shirt and the tenth pair of black leggings we own and call it a day!

On another note, when I say “basics”, I also am talking about the not so basics but items we use under jackets or when it is colder outside. Turtle necks, tank tops, long sleeve t-shirts or even scarves are great to keep. Although it may seem like multiple turtle necks are not necessary, they are because they work great in the winter. A little side note is it necessary to replace underwear after a while. I personally replace underwear at least twice a year. If a pair is in great condition then it is okay to keep, but there will be a few pairs that are not worth keeping and to just toss them and replace them. When it comes to shoes they have a longer shelf life. For example, a black pair of pumped heels are good to keep because they go with many different outfits whereas peep-toe shoes with a 2-inch platform are good to toss because you would want to avoid wearing those as much as possible.

When it comes to getting rid of a lot of items it becomes tricky to decide which ones to toss. Most commonly, the ones we get rid of are the ones we have duplicates of which is not a bad thing. The ones we want to avoid getting rid of are jeans and basics. The ones we do in fact want to get rid of are the multiple white button down shirts we have of the same color. At least get ride of one, two or even three of them (unless you are a business woman I must say). Also, the clothing that is sitting in the back of your closet and has been worn three times in the last few years need to go. It is actually taking up more valuable space than you think and if you haven’t worn it than you do not need it! Another good tip to remember is to not keep things that you hope will go back into style. For example bandage dresses… get rid of them.

They should never come back in style! Also, if you have one dress that you wear to every wedding or cocktail party, it may be time to toss it and replace it with a new one. It is okay to have a dedicated outfit to events like those but after a few years (or two or three weddings), it is time to get a new updated outfit. Last but not least, holding onto clothes that do not make you feel great when wearing them should be tossed. Why wear clothes that don’t make you feel confident and beautiful? There is no reason to do that. Now that you’ve gotten rid of the clothes that are useless you have more space to fill your closet with better clothes!

Now that you’ve cleaned out your closet there are a few options to what you do next with the clothing. First, you can donate them which is my favorite choice. Taking items to Goodwill or The Salvation Army makes everyone feel good. The best part about taking clothes to these stores is that if the clothing is damaged or not well enough to be sold, they recycle them and turn it into new textiles or even insulation. Another option is to offer them to friends who may need them. The last option is to sell the clothing that is in good condition to a store like Plato’s Closet. Plato’s Closet is a bit strict on the clothing they receive because they do not accept clothes with holes, rips, tears, stains etc. But the clothing they do accept, will be offered cash for which is always a plus side.

Now that you know what items to get rid of and not to get rid of and what to do with the clothing you are not keeping… cleaning out your closet should be a whole lot easier! Cleaning your closet can actually be therapeutic and fun as well. Turn on your favorite music and jam out while organizing. I know it is difficult to get rid of clothes you have had for so long, sentimental clothes or clothes that you may think you will need (but not really). Just know that when organizing and tossing clothes it leaves more room for new clothes that are more in style and will be put to more use! I hope this helped! Good luck Fashionistas.

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Why Silver Jewelry Is Much Better For Buying Than Gold From Online Shop!

By Krish Smith  |   Published October, 2021

Next only to Gold when it involves being malleable or ductile, Silver is that the third most expensive metal for jewelry making. So when it involves buying jewelry, customers seem to possess a transparent winner between Gold and Silver Jewelry online. Hence this jewelry competition is usually won by the Silver. Although the rationale for gold’s win has seldom to try to to with its mechanical properties.

People refrain from buying silver when it involves heavy investments, as they consider the metal somewhat lowly to gold. But the reality is, Silver leads on many fronts as far as its jewellery items are concerned, and proves to be a far better choice even just in case of while investment. So let’s have a glance at the advantages of shopping for silver jewellery such as Oxidised Nath Online, which could cause you to choose a Silver Nath Online over a gold one from next time on.

Reasons for the Preference Of Silver Jewellery:

All The information about the website- Online websites provide a certified payment method and details about the corporate. Before venturing off to shop for a bracelet or a hoop, it’s important that you simply undergo the knowledge of the website and verify the knowledge given. The authenticity of the website is obvious from the given information of the website.

Hard to damage- Silver is hard as compared to gold. Gold is soft and more susceptible to bending. If you’re a silver jewellery fan then you need to visit the Online market, to seek out some exclusive collections of silver jewellery online.

Staying on-trend- Silver is soft and may be easily moulded into a good range of styles and stunning pieces, from bracelets, necklaces, ankle bracelets, and far more. With alloy, you’ve got numerous choices to settle on from, which too without burning a hole in your pocket. you’ll build a stunning accessory collection with high-quality jewellery and stay awake so far with the most recent trends. What’s more amazing is that you simply also can pass this collection on to your children and grandchildren. Silver jewellery designs will never get out of fashion due to the lively and natural look this precious material reflects.

It’s is Healthier- Wearing silver jewellery helps you retain your blood vessels elastic, aids bone formation and healing, and acts as a pain killer just in case of muscle aches. These are some benefits that you simply could never achieve while wearing a gold ornament.

Zilvercraft has been delivering an excellent silver design that suits all kinds of occasions and all age groups. Nowadays not only teenagers but adult women are also attracted to silver ornaments because of the growing craze for silver accessories. Because of the increasing craze of bangles and bracelets, our latest silver jewellery includes a variety of Oxidised Nath Online. Other than this, we also have stunning Silver Jewellery online in stock.

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Metaphysically Speaking, Reflecting, My Stones Are My Sanity!

By Sharyce Arciaga  |   Published Here August 15, 2021

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My stones are my sanity. They allow me a feeling of peace and calm. They lend a form of relaxation like mental yoga. The isolation that is my current reality along with social distancing finds me in a state of exasperation… and I feel so alone.

Those who I thought cared about me are missing in my life. I am here in the world just the way my dear friend was who just passed recently. His name is David Tucker. Rest In Heaven, my road dog! Lol. He always loved eliciting a laugh from others and was a self-proclaimed comedian! Yet, I just can’t help thinking that you come into the world alone and you go out the same way!

If he were alive I would call him right now. Curiously, we never quite had an agreement of our minds. Rather, we shared an agreement of soul. We had an enduring soul agreement for over 20 years. So life goes on and u can stay in a joyful place or head towards another.

Realizing we are human-beings first, let us all go forward with compassion and understanding of those who may be ruthless and only out to win their selfish prize. And let us understand that these people are often existing with no real concept of humanity, love or the spirit of cooperation or sharing.

Many are living enshrined with remnants of smoke screens that block clear vision; and reliving their lives through ghettos of haunting memories where hereditary psychological trauma wreak havoc on minds from harsh social injustices and imbalances, and the simple act of living.

Such is the world as if it has been tilted on its axis… or as if it has completed a pole shift as the Aztec Mayan Calendar predicted for the 21st Century. For the world has been shifted, and altered dramatically, both alchemically and tumultuously.

Let us not forget nor ignore the Universe… the cosmos that dynamically play a major role in the energy on the planets… and on earth. As we know our mighty Sun, Ra is the giver and sustainer and the life-force of the earth. Shall we revel in it daily for healing!

I recently read that we are on the leading edge of thought. What does that mean to u? Could it possibly mean that we are trend setters who are creating the times for future generations and creating future worlds? And so it is. It is in concert that we must join as all in agreement to going forward with determined momentum, while supporting and uplifting all in a sustained manner with love and light.

My stones are my sanity during these horrendous times. They vibrate and calm my soul. They relax my inner being. They propel me forward as I traverse the realms of space and time. That is when I am connected to all compounds and elements of the Universe. The atoms, the molecules, the protons, neutrons, the collapsars (dying stars) and black holes… the all… the universe… the cosmos.

Interestingly and especially if you are up on the Sumerian Texts and Annunaki story… Collapsars may forge much of the universe’s gold. That’s according to Google Science News. For more information on the Annunaki story see: Annunaki 101:The Ancient Gods of Sumer.

These are the places in which my mind often dwells as I live a simultaneous multi-dimensional existence. So calming. So relentless. Yet, my stones are my center and my sanity! If you feel that you also dwell on a multi-dimensional plane I would love to hear your comments.

Sharyce Arciaga is an online entrepreneur, spiritualist, blogger, author and the owner of Black Queen Jewels, a one-stop shop for Fine Jewelry, Gemstones and Collectibles. For Fine jewelry, precious metals and collectibles see Black Queen Jewels

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Why Say You’re Fine When You’re Not!

By Susan Leigh  |   Published June 27, 2021

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Many of us enjoy exchanging pleasantries as we pass each other whilst taking our walk in the countryside, or nod and share a few friendly words in a familiar work or social setting. There’s often a smile as we ask, ‘hello, how are you?’, which is often unthinkingly followed by the usual, ‘I’m fine thanks, how are you?’

There’d be surprise if there was any other response to the non-question that’s been asked. It’s a polite greeting, which sometimes doesn’t even warrant waiting for the reply before we continue on our wa

But what happens when we say we’re fine when we’re not? We’re regularly advised to talk about our feelings, reminded of the importance of sharing with others when we’re down, of letting them help. But how do we do that?

 Context is important when we’re asked how we are. Did the question consist of a quick nod of recognition or was there a more concerned degree of interest being shown? What else were you both doing when you met? Were you both on your way somewhere else? Is the time and place appropriate for you to start disclosing that you’re struggling or would it be better to plan a future meet?

– Staying quiet can, at times, seem the easiest option, even though it can result in us experiencing escalating stress levels, tension and unhappiness. We may not even know ourselves why we’re feeling that way, are unable to find the words to explain what’s going on, are frustrated by our low mood. Keeping a journal or talking to someone else can sometimes help us process those feelings of confusion and overwhelm.

– Acting as if we’re fine may have become an important tool in our survival armory. It enables us to function on a daily basis, provides a welcome veneer to hide behind, allowing us to get through each day. If we really thought about explaining how we feel we’d have concerns about falling apart and be uneasy as to how we’d recover sufficiently afterwards.

– Making ourselves vulnerable can be a concern too. Once aired, details about messy or distressing personal situations cannot be retracted. Yes, someone may care about us, be interested and supportive, but how will they view us on future occasions; will it change our relationship and if so, will that be okay?

– Offering verbal clues can sometimes be a good way to start a conversation when we’re feeling low and out of sorts. Comments like, ‘I’m okay, thanks, not too bad, surviving, I’ve been better, I’m getting there’ are all indicators that we’re not the happiest we’ve ever been! Those replies could be an opportunity for the other person to enquire if we’re really okay, prompt them to ask if we’d like to talk or maybe suggest we arrange a coffee. But, for them to follow-up depends on how busy they are, how they’re feeling themselves and whether they’re inclined to be supportive.

 How close is your relationship? Do you want to risk changing the dynamics of the relationship by sharing how much you’re struggling, reveal what’s actually going on when you’re asked how you are? And actually, sometimes it can become a bit of an issue if, whenever we meet, our personal situation becomes the opening topic conversation. Sometimes not talking about our problems can give us a break and stop us from being constantly immersed in our situation.

 Can you trust the other person to do right by you? No one wants to disclose their innermost anxieties and concerns, only to then find themselves the subject of gossip a few hours later. Feeling able to confidentially share with another, and for that to be received in a supportive way is a major component when we’re not feeling fine.

 Ultimately it’s our responsibility to share if we’re in need of a little caring friendship. But to do so requires us to be in the ‘right place’ to ask someone if they’ve time for a chat, to feel confident enough to reveal that we’re feeling low and in need of someone to talk to. And, also, to not take it personally if they reply that they’re too busy to talk right now, but will get back to us and speak later.

– It’s also important to be clear about what we need. Is it advice, someone to simply listen without comment, an ally, a hug? Doing that allows everyone to know what’s expected of them.

And don’t forget that none of us operate in a vacuum. The other person will, no doubt, have their own story, issues and problems of concern to them. Try to reciprocate and allow time for them to be heard too. And if you find you’re really struggling remember that talking to your GP or contacting a counsellor or hypnotherapist could provide the professional support you need on your journey to feeling really fine.

Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.

She’s author of 3 books, ‘Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact’, ‘101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday’ and ‘Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain’, all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.

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Use “The Big Five” to understand your personality and gain insight into your current challenges:

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There have been many personality models developed over history. A scientist by the name of Lewis Goldberg developed the most commonly accepted model in use today. This model is named “The Big Five.”

The combination of these five personality factors can accurately describe a person’s personality and predict their behavior and success in life quite well.

  1. Extraversion. On one end of this scale are the extroverts, and on the other are the introverts. Most of us lie somewhere in between. Think of introverts as those who gain energy while spending time alone. They tend to tire from social interactions.

    1. Extroverts are just the opposite. Being alone drains their energy and they are recharged by spending time with others. Extroverts are commonly described as sociable, socially confident, talkative, energetic, and assertive.

    1. Introverts are frequently introspective, reserved, and quiet. They are often, but not always, lacking in social confidence.

  2. Agreeableness. This characteristic is self-explanatory. Agreeable people are polite, sensitive, cheerful, patient, and enjoyable to be around. They are likable and like others. Those low in agreeableness are often described as blunt, rude, sarcastic, and abrasive.

    1. Not surprisingly, studies show that most prison inmates rank in the bottom 2% for agreeableness.

    1. Those high in agreeableness are well-liked by everyone.

    1. Women tend to be more agreeable than men by a significant margin.
  1. Openness. This isn’t the willingness to share your deepest, darkest secrets. Openness in this context is a measure of how open you are to new experiences. People high in this trait are interested in new ideas and perspectives. They also tend to value art and music. This trait is closely linked to intelligence.

  2. Conscientiousness. If you’re high in conscientiousness, you value order, achievement, self-discipline, and like to take care of business. You are not particularly interested in new experiences or novel stimulation. You are neat, organized, and like to work from a schedule.

    1. This trait is strongly correlated with success. If you know someone that doesn’t seem all that smart or talented, but they are still successful, they are almost certainly high in conscientiousness.

    1. Those very low in conscientiousness are chronic procrastinators, disorganized, and often labeled as underachievers. If your life always seems out of control, it’s likely that you are low in conscientiousness.

  3. Neuroticism. Those that rate high in neuroticism tend to be unstable, seek short-term enjoyment, are impulsive, and negative. They have poor job performance, a greater tendency for addiction, and difficulty adjusting to change.

There are several Big 5 tests available online for free or for a fee. You can also contact a mental health professional about testing. If you’re struggling with life, it can be helpful to know where you fall within these five personality traits. You can then begin making adjustments to alter your scores as needed.

For example, if your life is a disaster, and you realize that you are low in conscientiousness, you could start taking control of your day by creating a schedule each evening. This has been found to be very effective in raising your level of conscientiousness.

Those low in agreeableness can make it a point to do something nice for someone each day. If you’re high in neuroticism, learning to meditate or reading a  book on anxiety reduction can make a big change in your life.

Understanding your personality can help you to tame the challenges you’re currently experiencing in your life. If you’re feeling stuck, a quick personality test might provide the answers you’re looking for. See how you score on The Big 5.

Expressing Ourselves With The Colors We Wear

By Wanda McDowell  |   Published February 22, 2021

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There are many ways we as humans can express ourselves without using words. We can express ourselves with body language, cues, gestures, so on and so forth. We also express ourselves most vividly using fashion. What we wear can say 1,000 words about ourselves without even knowing it. For the sake of time, we will just focus on the primary colors. What we put on for the day can also let people in on our moods and/or the depths of our souls. Wearing red exudes confidence. Wearing red is empowering and defines capability and dominance. All qualities of a leader. It is also the color of sensuality, aggression, passion, and boldness. Another bold color that is sure to attract attention is orange. Many associate wearing orange with creativity, enthusiasm, warmth, happiness, ambition, and harnessing new opportunities. People say when you wear yellow often, it is a sign of your vivaciousness and you will probably spend the entire day laughing because it represents your sublime femininity. Wearing a yellow dress suggests that you are an active, creative, and exciting woman.

There are some mixed feelings about wearing green. It is an earth tone and most associated with the earth. There is also a myth surrounding green spirited leprechauns. According to Fables, Leprechauns are short spirits that take the form of an old man in a red or green coat. They are mischievous and like to make shoes. They place their gold coins in a pot of gold that is hidden at the end of a rainbow. If you catch one, he will give you three wishes provided you let him go. Therefore, green is normally associated with luck. It is also a color of security, abundance, growth and balance. The negative opposite this color is associated with is envy. It is strongly recommended to only wear this color when you are open to different perspectives, need to feel grounded, calm, and generous. Don’t wear this color when you’re confused and unsure, feel stagnant, and want to be alone. Wearing this color will only intensify those emotions.

Wearing blue lets people know that you are an authoritarian. You are morally strict and have little patience for disorganization and zero tolerance for those you can’t depend on because you are a dependable person. You are trustworthy and loyal to the core. However, too much blue can come across as coldness to some people. When you want to exude power, have mental control, communicate an important message, and represent conservativeness than you should wear blue to accentuate this purpose.

Wearing Indigo is a sign of great discovery. It is a sign that you mastered opening your third eye. You have a greater awareness of what is going on in the world around you. Your perception is spot on as well as your intuition. Listen to your innermost thoughts because they are guiding you in the right direction to happiness and abundance. The color indigo represents power and dignification. It also conveys integrity and deep sincerity. When you are wearing indigo, you are expressing your great devotion, wisdom and balance because you are a fair and impartial person. You seek justice and have a distaste for ambiguity.

The color violet- purple is associated with creativity, insight, and love of art. When you wear purple, it indicates you are an emotional and sensitive person so family and friends should tread lightly because your feelings get hurt easily leaving you emotionally scarred for some time. You are also dreamy, passionate, and love the occult.

There are two colors that I think are also worth mentioning because they are worn so much: black and white. When you wear black you mean business because it is a color that is taken seriously. Wearing black is a statement that says, “I am an ambitious person.” Whatever they do is done with purpose and intent. They can be sensitive as they are emotional and wear their heart on their sleeve-literally. It is all or nothing with them. Do not be deceived by their outward appearances because beneath that shirt is smoldering intensity. They are also easily excitable because they have a heightened sense of awareness. Wearing white represents purity or innocence. Wearing a white dress at a wedding was often thought to convey the bride’s virginity. White is bright and adds highlights.

If you believe what I have written is incorrect. I implore you to do your own research behind what wearing colors symbolizes and how it is associated with our subconscious mind.


Wanda Collins

Devoted mother of 3 who has a passion for fashion and home decor.

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Foil Dinner Recipes That Everyone Is Loving Right Now

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Preparing dinner for the entire family doesn’t have to be too much hard work, especially when you don’t have enough time on some days. If you don’t have the luxury of time but still want to prepare a fulfilling dinner, why not go for a foil dinner? It’s super easy to prepare and the best part is, no clean up required after!

Try these popular foil dinner recipes:

Hawaiian Chicken Extravaganza

What you need:

  • 1 kilogram chicken breast, chopped
  • 2 cups rice of your choice, cooked
  • 2 large onions, sliced
  • 1 green bell pepper, sliced
  • 1 red bell pepper, sliced
  • 1 large head broccoli, chopped
  • 2 cups green peas
  • 2 cups crushed pineapple
  • 2 to 3 cups teriyaki sauce

Prepare 4 sheets of heavy duty aluminum foil, folding the sides to create a 1-inch rim. Spray the foil with cooking spray. Divide the rice, chicken, onions, bell peppers, broccoli, green peas and pineapple between 4 foils. Fold up the sides to create a packet. Drizzle each with teriyaki sauce. If grilling, cook the packets on a pre-heated grill over medium high heat, turning a few times, for 30 minutes. When baking, cook packets on pre-heated oven (400F) for 30 minutes. Allow a few minutes to cool before opening the packets.

Cheesy Burger and Veggie Packets

What you need:

  • 1/2 kilogram ground beef
  • 2 potatoes, thinly sliced
  • 12 cherry potatoes, halved
  • 1 1/2 cups sliced baby carrots
  • 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese
  • 1/4 cup plus 2 tablespoons chopped green onions
  • 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons peppered seasoned salt

In a large bowl, mix together ground beef, cheddar cheese, 1/4 cup chopped onions and Worcestershire sauce. Season with 1 teaspoon seasoned salt. Using clean hands, shape mixture into 1-inch thick patties. Prepare 4 pieces of 18×12 inches heavy duty aluminum foil and spray each with cooking spray. Divide potatoes, beef patties, cherry tomatoes, carrots and remaining seasoned salt among 4 foil sheets then fold over sides to seal. Cook on a pre-heated grill, covered, over medium heat until all ingredients are heated through and potatoes are tender, about 18 to 20 minutes. Allow to cool before consuming.

Enjoy your next meal time with the entire family – something fulfilling, satisfying and most of all, delicious! Prepare any of these easy foil dinner recipes – we’re sure you won’t be able to get enough (and so will your loved ones!)

Adrian T. Cheng is a food blogger and a BBQ expert. Through years of grill experience, reviewing various grilling accessories and trying delicious and unique recipes, he is sharing his knowledge with everyone through his blog. For more grilling secrets, tips, recipes and more, head over to Adrian’s website where he has other interesting grill-related products and posts.

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My Cup Of Tea

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Tea is not only a beverage, it’s an experience for millions around the world. The phrase “my cup of tea” is associated with many aspects of life. Whether it is morning time or sun set hours, the experience gets better only with tea. The term has also deeper connection with like and dislike. It has a special place in every family. It has been associated with family members’ lifestyle and comfort. This special beverage has widespread consumption making it 2nd most popular drink after water. Researchers believe that it came from China as a medicinal drink and gradually reached every corner of the world. Tea loving nations have developed a number of recipes around tea based on their need and consumption behavior.

Some countries consider tea as a daily habit, while some others have it to comfort the body and mind. If you are a fan of this beverage, you must try some healthy recipes at home. These recipes are either related to hot beverage or cold beverage. In addition to a cup of tea, a glass of this beverage is also very common when the mood says to have something out of the box. Whatever may the type, it should be healthy and match our need. Let’s have a look at some of the popular and easy recipes for everyone.

  1. Lemon tea

Lemon is a good source of vitamin C and it prevents many diseases like, kidney stones, anaemia, indigestion, etc. So, you should consider having lemon in various forms as a part of your routine diet. If you are preparing black/green tea, just squeeze half of a small lemon and you are done. Enjoy!

  1. Cardamom flavoured

Cardamom has cancer fighting compounds along with antioxidants and properties that help digestive problems. One exciting thing about this spice is its fragrance. Brew one or two cardamom with black tea or add milk, sugar etc. according to your taste. It will give you awesome taste and feeling of having a natural flavour.

  1. Spicy taste

Adding spice can bring very powerful taste and gives refreshing feeling right from the first sip. This recipe may include spices like, star anise, honey, milk, cardamom, maple syrup, cinnamon, cloves, etc. Boil together with tea powder and enjoy.

  1. Mixed with Jaggery

Jaggery prevents constipation and cleans the liver. It has antioxidant properties and minerals like zinc and selenium. If you are preparing spiced tea, add palm jaggery to sip on a perfect cup. Being a traditional sweetener, it can also be added with milk and milk powder.

  1. Adding basil

Basil has a lot of medicinal properties and it is regarded as a holy pant among Hindus. It can sharpen memory, it can combat cold, flu, and infections, treats insect bite, asthma and stress. So having this with a sip will give you a lot of benefits. Having anti-bacterial, anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, it acts as a one-stop solution for all the members of a family. Preparing basil tea is very easy. Add 10-12 middle size leaves during boiling and your drink is ready.

All the ingredients mentioned here are generally available in any kitchen. If you are excited about trying these recipes, go and prepare. Family members will definitely like your culinary skills.

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